Can You Recognize Toxic People? Can You Remove Them From Your Life??
~Your HEALTH may depend on it!!

Following is a list of commonly encountered types of toxic people, with descriptions of their basic toxic characteristics.

The Psychopath: The Psychopath lacks empathy and sympathy, is completely devoid of a conscience, and derives pleasure from others’ suffering.

The Sociopath: The Sociopath completely disregards the rights and feelings of others, and is incapable of experiencing remorse, shame or guilt.

The Pathological Liar: The Pathological Liar lacks the capacity to tell the truth-in fact, the pathological lacks the ability to even recognize the truth.

The Emotional Wreck: The Emotional Wreck is constantly on an emotional rollercoaster. This individual simply cannot keep it together.

The Putdown Artist: The Putdown Artist is constantly making others the butt of jokes in an attempt to deflect attention away from their own shortcomings.

The Hatemonger/Blamemonger: The Hatemonger/Blamemonger hates everyone who is nicer, smarter, richer, better connected or more successful than they are. The Hatemonger/Blamemonger blames every individual and every group of individuals that is different from them for all of their particular problems, as well as for everything the Hatemonger/Blamemonger believes is wrong with the world in general.

The Misogynist/Misandrist/Misanthrope: The Misogynist hates women. The Misandrist hates women. The Misanthrope hates ALL humans without regard to gender. The Misogynist/Misandrist/Misanthrope blames women, men or people in general for all of their problems and failures.

The World Class Jerk: The World Class Jerk is a classless, uncouth, foul-mouthed jackass who is universally offensive.

The Moocher: The Moocher constantly asks to borrow everything money to breath mints. The Moocher develops amnesia when it’s time to pay back a loan, and is never able to reciprocate a favor.

The Downer: The Downer is always in a bad mood. In fact, The Downer takes great pains to maintain their bad mood and to broadcast it to anyone who will listen.

The Illwill Ambassador: The Illwill Ambassador seeks out bad news and rumors and works overtime to make sure no one misses out on their malevolent mudslinging.

The Instigator: The Instigator lives to create discord, hostility and strife. The Instigator actually nurtures confrontation.

The Bully: The Bully thrives on dominating and humiliating those they perceive as weaker than them.

The Master Manipulator: The Master Manipulator uses cunning, trickery and subterfuge to control victims.

The Blackmailer: The Blackmailer works hard to gain your trust so they can learn your secrets and weaknesses and exploit them when you cross them.

The Blabbermouth: The Blabbermouth tells everything they know–especially your personal business.

The Generally Malcontent: The Generally Malcontent finds dissatisfaction with everything and makes a point of never being happy…ever.

The Love Predator: The Love Predator pretends to be your friend, finds out all your business and uses it to try to get your spouse or lover into bed. The Love Predator doesn’t actually want your spouse or lover; they want you to know they slept with (or could have slept with) your spouse or lover.

The Self-Destructor: The Self-Destructor eats too much, drinks too much, smokes too much and parties too much. The Self-Destructor is the embodiment of the word reckless.

Those of us with chronic health conditions need to pay attention!  Protect yourself from the elephant in the room.

Please see the letter I just received today. My heart is overflowing and always will be.

Hello, I am 19 years old and was diagnosed with Ulcerative Colitis at seven, after a difficult six years at the age of 13 I went into surgery for the ileostomy due to a shutdown of my colon. Going through teenage years is hard enough for any young girl, no one feels particularly confident about their body and I felt as though an ileostomy made everything worse. Even now I was still bitter towards the surgery that saved my life, I fear I would never feel beautiful, or sexy. My greatest fear is was when I would finally meet someone to marry, I would feel embarrassed and uncomfortable on my wedding night.

Thank you,
Emily

The OAG Mission,

The Ostomy Adventure Group (OAG) creates an environment whereby person’s with ostomies do not merely cope with their ostomy but learn to live exciting, fulfilling and active lifestyles.  Living with an ostomy is a daunting task for anyone to adjust to and the first step to having a better life is through self-acceptance.  The realization that the ostomy is a permanent part of your life is a difficult one to accept, and one that takes time.  However, OAG believes participation in group activities with fellow ostomates will build self-awareness and confidence in future social outings.  ??The OAG encourages spouses, significant others, friends and family members to participate in and attend all events.  This further creates an environment whereby a person having an ostomy will feel more comfortable in discussing the issues and concerns that matter most to them and their loved ones.  Most people in the general public have never heard of an ostomy and this lack of knowledge can easily foster a sense of fear, embarrassment and avoidance of certain social events for a person who has an ostomy.  It is OAG’s goal to encourage everyone with an ostomy to embrace a healthy, active lifestyle with no fear and more confidence.

Shaughn Thomas, founder of the OAG, was born with an inherited genetic disease called Gardner’s Syndrome, a variant of FAP (familial adenomateous polyposis).  This disease is caused by an abnormal function or absence of the tumor supressor gene.  There are many different variants, however, most of those effected have numerous benign colon polyps which eventually can turn cancerous, polyps of the stomach, superficial cysts, desmoid tumors, and a predisposition to numerous cancers.  He was diagnosed with colon cancer in 1997, and had his large intestine removed the same year.  The following year, 1998, Shaughn was diagnosed with his first of currently 11 total desmoid tumors of the abdomen.  Since then, he has had over 30 abdominal surgeries, and 3 different ileostomies.  His medical history is far too lengthy to list, but if you have any questions, feel free to email him and he will share more of his medical history with you.

Raised in a small town in upstate New York, Shaughn moved to Boston to seek medical treatment at Dana Farber Cancer Institute in 1993 and has been living in the area since.  He has been on multiple trial chemotherapies in hopes of finding a drug to treat the rare desmoid tumors that he experiences.  When on a clinical trial in 2005, he met his current girlfriend, Kelly, a pediatric oncology nurse at Children’s Hospital Boston.  Since then, they have been residing together in Belmont, MA, with their two dogs, Maddox and Chloe.

Shaughn is a 37-year-old architectural project manager in Weymouth, MA.  For hobbies he enjoys skiing, fishing, biking, working-out, cooking, and traveling.

Idea for the OAG

In 2004, Shaughn decided that he would like to reach out to others with both his condition, as well as those living with ostomies.  He reached out to find his local ostomy support group, The Ostomy Association of Boston.  In attending meetings, as a younger man, was disappointed in the showing of young people with ostomies to the group meetings.  He felt as though sitting and talking with others who understand you is occasionally beneficial; he wanted more.  As an active person, he found it amazing through speaking with others how many misconceptions were out there with regards to what people with ostomies could or could not do.  As a result he came up with the idea of a support group that did not simply sit around a table and chat, but rather participate in an activity, whether it be physical such as white water rafting, or going on a scenic apple picking trip.  This still gives the members a chance to talk with others who understand what they are experiencing, but in a completely different atmosphere.  And so the OAG was started…

The medical profession cannot be sure of the causes, nor have they suitable treatments for IBS, new drugs that may be effective in some individuals are mainly prohibitively expensive for sufferers.  Hypnotherapy in the UK and elsewhere has been shown to help in the vast majority of cases of IBS sufferers.  The writer is aware of at least one hospital gastroenterology department with its own hypnotherapy team alongside. Hypnotherapy is non intrusive, safe, comfortable and a cost effective and   complementary to use along side mainstream medicine, some in the profession would in this case argue ‘alternative’ since the medical profession are generally at a loss with this condition.

Just dealing with the symptoms of IBS is not enough, the individual has to learn to rebuild internal energy, many sufferers feel drained emotionally, and life issues and responsibilities continue to deplete inner emotional strength, leading in some cases to anxiety or even some forms of depression.   Before the sufferer even thinks of working through the IBS, they invariably need an emotional ‘pop-up’, they need their batteries charged, after perhaps years of pain and discomfort, of being told by various medical professionals that there is nothing that can be done, even though intrusive and sometimes painful examinations have been undergone, many sufferers feel emotionally drained.

Work and family relationships can be eroded and strained, social life and love life can be virtually non-existent, concentration and recall, may be almost impossible compared to how it used to be, confidence and self esteem of the individual is often very low, and the ability to see things in perspective is greatly reduced.  Therefore to tell a sufferer that they must do this or that, without preparing for the journey is almost certain failure.

Hypnotherapy, when conducted correctly can increase self-esteem, confidence, and allow the sufferer to begin a journey of self-improvement and management, by changing their thoughts, changing negative thoughts and feelings for positive ones and thereby equip themselves emotionally to move away from the symptoms and thoughts of IBS and begin moving forward, a journey that many sufferers have or are taking at this moment. Hypnosis represents a brief therapy, which is benign, noninvasive and inexpensive.

Since IBS symptoms are cyclical in nature, the results of any therapy must be evaluated over a long period of time. The greater the number of hypnosis sessions, the longer lasting the relief the client gets. While many clients will report symptom relief after one or two sessions, unless they come back for multiple sessions spaced over a period of three to four months, they will notice a gradual ‘creeping back’ of their symptoms. Clients following the multi-session approach have now maintained their symptom improvements for up to five years after the sessions ended and still counting.

In today’s insurance of managed care system, hypnotherapy is being embraced. It is imperative, however, that you work closely with the client’s personal physician and that you not accept clients who have not gotten a definitive diagnosis of IBS. Successful IBS clients will build a practice for you.

What makes hypnotherapy different than cognitive therapy? Cognitive counseling deals with issues at a cognitive level; and many of life’s problems require just that. When someone has to make difficult cognitive decisions, competent professional help is absolutely essential. For example, hypnotherapy is not a substitute for marriage counseling. But when it comes to changing habits or behaviors regulated by the subconscious, there is nothing faster than competent hypnotherapy to facilitate subconscious change.

Can hypnosis be used to reduce pain and/or suffering from illness? Pain is a warning that something is wrong with the body, and it needs to be diagnosed by someone qualified to do so. Any competent hypnotherapy instructor emphasizes to his or her students the importance of requiring a written referral from an examining physician before ever using hypnosis to reduce pain or other physical symptoms. The exception (for those who are not licensed to practice medicine) is if the examining physician is physically present and/or is supervising the hypnotic process.

Since the time of a Hypnotherapist is not nearly as expensive as the time of a physician, hopefully there will be greater cooperation between the medical profession and the hypnotherapy profession in the future. A competently trained Hypnotherapist should know, even with a medical referral, when to simply use hypnosis for symptom removal, and when and how to use hypnosis to search for subconscious causes of the symptom(s).

Hypnosis can make a difference even with major disease.  Hypnosis can be used to reduce pain. Hypnosis can be used to quit smoking. Hypnosis can be used for weight reduction. Hypnosis can be used to overcome phobias. Hypnosis can be used to reduce stress or anxiety. Hypnosis can be used to control irritable bowel syndrome.

Standard medical methods currently used to treat irritable bowel syndrome (IBS) are of some help to the majority of people with the disorder. However, up to half (1) of IBS sufferers are dissatisfied with the results of standard medical management, and many continue to have frequent symptoms after seeing doctors about them. In recent years, other alternatives have been sought to help these individuals. There has been growing interest in the possibility of using the mind to soothe the symptoms of IBS.

Mental states clearly affect the way the gut behaves in people with IBS, and in fact, also in people who have no gastrointestinal problems. Although IBS is probably not caused by stress directly, it is well established from research that psychological stress increases the symptoms of many people who have the disorder. If the mind can have such a powerful negative influence on the intestinal tract, it would seem to make sense that the mind could be used to have a positive or calming influence on the intestines.

Hypnosis for IBS The results of the first formal research study on hypnosis treatment for IBS were published in the Lancet in 1984.  The investigators, Dr. Peter Whorwell and his group in Manchester in England, reported remarkable success from a seven-session hypnosis treatment of 15 patients with severe IBS problems who had not responded to any other treatment. All 15 patients treated with seven sessions of hypnotherapy improved, with dramatic improvement seen in all the central symptoms of IBS.

The researchers furthermore showed that this therapeutic impact was not merely due to belief or expectancy of improvement, because a comparison group of 15 IBS patients who were instead treated with the same number of psychotherapy sessions and also received placebo pills (pills with no medication) showed only slight improvement. This was a powerful demonstration of the impact hypnotherapy could have on IBS, and led to considerable subsequent interest in this approach to IBS treatment. Since this first report, more than a dozen other published research reports have confirmed that hypnosis treatment is effective in treating IBS.

Generally, the treatment procedures reported in the literature consists of 4 to 12 sessions (shorter treatment than 7 sessions may be a bit less effective). Hypnosis sessions are typically conducted weekly or once every other week, last 30-40 minutes and consist of induction of hypnosis followed by deep relaxation and the use of gut-directed imagery and suggestions. Patients are commonly given short audiotape hypnosis home exercises to use during the course of treatment in addition to the sessions with the clinicians.

Although it is by now well established that hypnosis treatment often improves the symptoms of IBS, it remains a mystery exactly how hypnosis influences IBS in such a beneficial way. A research team has conducted two studies to try to shed some light on this issue, using completely standardized seven-session protocol with written hypnosis scripts where all treated patients receive the same exact hypnosis treatment word for word.

The first study (6), which was the first hypnosis group trial for IBS in the U.S., was conducted in Dr. Whitehead’s research laboratory at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill in 1995-1996.   In this study, the focus was to understand how the treatment influenced the intestinal tract, by measuring changes in rectal pain sensitivity and gut muscle tone with a computerized balloon inflation test. The study found no significant changes in pain sensitivity or muscle tone in the gut after hypnosis treatment. However, 17 of the 18 treated patients, all of whom had unsuccessfully tried conventional treatment methods, rated their IBS symptoms significantly improved after treatment.      It should be noted that the Manchester group has also conducted two studies to examine the changes in the gut after hypnosis treatment. They similarly found no overall changes in gut pain sensitivity (although in one study (16) a subgroup of the most pain-sensitive individuals showed reduced sensitivity) nor muscle tone changes after treatment, even though the clinical symptoms of their patients improved.

The second study (7) at Eastern Virginia Medical School in Norfolk, Virginia, to examined whether the effects of the hypnotherapy on IBS could be explained by treatment changes in nervous system activity, and also to test further our standardized treatment protocol. Twenty-four people with severe IBS were treated with the standard protocol, and measured the activity of the autonomic nervous system (the part of the nervous system that automatically controls the body’s inner functions) in various ways before and after treatment. It measured sweat gland activity, heart rate, blood pressure, skeletal muscle tension, and skin temperature in the participants, both at rest and in response to a standard mental stress task (problem-solving under time pressure). Twenty-one of the 24 patients (87.5%) treated in the study improved substantially and maintained their improvement at 10-month follow-up. The only change we saw after hypnosis treatment in the nervous system data, however, was a small reduction in sweat gland activity, suggesting somewhat lessened physical stress. This suggests that changes in the mind’s interpretation of, or attention to, signals from the body play some role in the improvement.

Dr. Bunny is a former model and award winning image consultant. When her own allergies and migraine headaches disappeared using hypnotherapy she was hooked! She earned her PhD in clinical Hypnotherapy with a specialty in IBS. Featured on radio and television, Dr. Bunny is an experienced speaker and has authored many articles for newspapers and magazines and is working on a book illustrating how the mind impacts our behavior.http://www.BunnyVreeland.com

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Enjoyment is a matter of subjectivity. Just as one person might like to eat sea food whilst another does not, enjoyment of all aspects of life are dependent upon individual preferences. Yes, there some things which the majority of people would not enjoy, but this does not need to have the effect of ruining ones overall enjoyment of life. The fact is that if you are not enjoying life you can change this personal reality simply by changing your mindset.

I am absolutely certain of this fact. Your personal reality is only real because you make it so. What you are thinking about and how you are thinking about it is your reality. Your reality is not the place in which you live or the job that you do; it is how you think about it. Your thoughts create your emotions and these motivate your actions. Everything in your individual reality begins with your thoughts.

This is why I am also absolutely certain that hypnosis can help you to enjoy life. Hypnosis is a state of m1nd which in itself is relaxing; to relax of course is very enjoyable and for a lot of people it is a very welcome break from tension and stress. Hypnosis is a state which allows you to access your subconscious mind, the part of your mind which knows just what to do and just how to do it, the part which acts instinctively and spontaneously.

Hypnosis is well known as a means to make easy habit changes. Habits are based upon thoughts, just like everything else in life. As I said before, everything starts with how you think about it. A habit is based upon subconscious thought processes; you are usually not even consciously aware of these thoughts. All that you know is that you always act in a particular manner when presented with certain stimuli. It therefore makes good sense that hypnosis is such a useful tool in effecting habit change, seeing as it allows access to your subconscious mind which is the engine which powers your habits.

Hypnosis can be used to alter unconscious thought patterns and also those of which you are consciously aware. Whenever you would like to see something from a different angle, hypnosis can help you to take a step back and more easily take an alternate perspective. Hypnosis will also help you to make this new perspective more habitual by embedding it in your subconscious mind.

If you are not enjoying life, ask yourself why this is the case. The answer will inevitably boil down, in the end, to that fact that you have not gained control of your own thoughts. This is the only possible answer when your personal reality is created by your thoughts. You can learn to take control of your thoughts by learning to use hypnosis. You can do this easily by listening to a hypnosis mp3 download. You can learn to focus upon your life in a way which promotes enjoyment. You can learn to see things in a light and bright manner. What was difficult can now become easy. What seemed dark can now become light. It is all a matter of how you think; your reality is dependent upon the perspective which you choose.

This very briefly outlines why I am so sure that hypnosis will help you to enjoy life. But there is one proviso – it will only work if you want it to. Do you want to turn your face to the sun and let the shadows fall behind you? Hypnosis, I think, is sun bathing for the soul.

Hater

By Maya Angelou

A hater is someone who is jealous and envious and spends all their time trying to make you look small so they can look tall.
They are very negative people to say the least. Nothing is ever good enough!
When you make your mark, you will always attract some haters…
That’s why you have to be careful with whom you share your blessings and your dreams, because some folk can’t handle seeing you blessed…
It’s dangerous to be like somebody else… If God wanted you to be like somebody else, He would have given you what He gave them! Right?
You never know what people have gone through to get what they have…
The problem I have with haters is that they see my glory, but they don’t know my story…
If the grass looks greener on the other side of the fence, you can rest assured that the water bill is higher there too!
We’ve all got some haters among us!
Some people envy you because you can:
a) Have a relationship with God
b) Light up a room when you walk in
c) Start your own business
d) Tell a man / woman to hit the curb (if he / she isn’t about the right thing)
e) Raise your children without both parents being in the home

Haters can’t stand to see you happy.
Haters will never want to see you succeed.
Most of our haters are people who are supposed to be on our side.
How do you handle your undercover haters?

You can handle these haters by:
1. Knowing who you are & who your true friends are *(VERY IMPORTANT!!)

2. Having a purpose to your life: Purpose does not mean having a job. You can have a job and still be unfulfilled. A purpose is having a clear sense of what God has called you to be. Your purpose is not defined by what others think about you.

3. By remembering what you have is by divine prerogative and not human manipulation.

Fulfill your dreams! You only have one life to live…when its your time to leave this earth, you ‘want’ to be able to say, ‘I’ve lived my life and fulfilled ‘my’ dreams,… Now I’m ready to go HOME!

When God gives you favor, you can tell your haters, ‘Don’t look at me…Look at Who is in charge of me…’

Leah Humphries (The CEO of My Heart Ties and Apple Creative Group) joined 100 other entrepreneurs this past Sunday in Las Vegas to attend the Secret Millionaire Screening at the home of James Malinchak!

Humphries has recently attracted the attention of the Speaking and Marketing Guru Malinchak and received an invitation to attend this exciting event hosted by none other than Robin Leech! Some of the attendees included :Diane Lampe CEO of Lampe Success Academy and Mike Koenigs CEO of Traffic Geyser a billion dollar online company.

• Isolation from others, you rarely see friends and family.
• Excessive dependence on him/her.
• You constantly think about saying or doing the right thing so that your spouse does not become upset.
• You live in the moment, unable to plan ahead because you fear your spouse’s response to any plans or ideas you have. Any action you take is criticized unless it is one of compliance to his/her desires.
• You feel as if you don’t have the energy it would take to fight back against their controlling behavior. You doubt your ability to stand-up and speak your own mind and express your own opinions.
• You feel a sense of depression and anxiety most of the time.
• You feel as if anything you do or say will be meant with anger or dismissal. Your feelings and desires just don’t seem to matter to your spouse.

By Remez Sasson (his site is SuccessConsciousness.com)

For Those of us with chronic illness this is a nice read.
It is a well known fact that stress, anxiety, tension, worries and fears can hurt your health, not only the physical health, but also the mental and emotional health. These negative states put strain on the nerves and on the body, produce poisons in the body and in the blood stream, disturb the concentration and the attention, and sometimes produce various ailments and health problems, which require expert help, treatments or the taking of medications.

Many men and women suffer nowadays from stress and strain and from their symptoms. There are so many factors in today’s life that cause stress, anxiety, worries and fears. Some of the factors are problems at work, difficulties in relationships, lack of money, not having a job or fear of losing it, health problems and many other factors.

Often, anxiety, stress, strain and panic are caused by irrational fears, negative thoughts and expectations, being too much affected by what people say, what you read in the newspaper and what you see on TV, and sometimes due feelings of lack of security and safety.

If these conditions persist, stress and anxiety turn into a habit, and then a vicious circle is created, which increases the state of inner peace and lack of happiness.

The question is, why people bring themselves into such a state? True, in some cases the causes for stress and anxiety might be physical, and require medical treatment, but most cases are due to one’s way of thinking and mental habits, and this is something that can be changed.

What if you try to change your thinking habits, think more positively, learn to gain some peace of mind, and learn to refuse letting your moods and state of mind being affected by external causes? You might not believe it is possible, but it is possible. Isn’t it better and more satisfying to be able to avoid negative thinking and thoughts that make you feel stressed and anxious? Isn’t it better to be able to stay calm, relaxed and in control of yourself, even in difficult and stressful conditions? These are preventive means that can keep you happy and healthy, physically, emotionally and mentally.

There are physical treatments and medications, and there are also other sorts of “medications”, such as inner peace, positive thinking and changing one’s way of thinking. These are “medicines” without side effects, and they do not require a prescription.

Instead of letting this negative situation continue, or trying to resolve it through medicinal or psychological treatments, why not learn to overcome and avoid being in a mental and emotional condition that directs you towards a life of stress and strain, doctors and pills?

Here are a few simple things you can do:

• Be more aware of your thoughts. When you catch yourself thinking negatively, feeling pity for yourself or expecting problems, stop that immediately, and think about something you love doing. Don’t give up, even if the negative thinking persists. Again and again move your mind to something more pleasing. Eventually you will win.
• Give your body and mind some rest, several times a day, even if this is just for a few minutes.
• Read a few pages from an inspiring book, before you go to sleep at night.
• It would be a great idea if you learn to meditate. Even a few minutes a day will release tension, stress, both from the body and from the mind.
• Always think of what you really want, not on what you don’t want to happen.
• Take a few deep breaths when you feel you are getting stressed and losing your composure.
• Think and expect positive results. It doesn’t cost you money, but it is a great healing medicine.
• Learn to smile and laugh more often.
• Don’t take anything out of proportion. It is so easy to make a mountain out of a molehill. If you keep thinking about something not so important that someone said, or something you have heard or read, you can create a great problem in your mind that does not really exists. You can magnify its importance out of proportions and consequently suffer and be in. this is not wise and not necessary.

I enjoyed reading this post by Jenny Mannion and hope you will too.

“We have all had those times when we feel “in flow”.  All is going well – almost “too well” we might find our inner pessimist saying disbelievingly. Life feels effortless and like we have angels all around us making everything all right. The beautiful thing is LIFE IS SUPPOSED TO FEEL LIKE THIS.  We, us humans living here in the third dimension make this SO hard and most of the time we feel so OUT OF FLOW that we have not a clue how to get back in it. There are a few ways I have found to “get back in flow”.

Often we are so in our heads and on automatic pilot that we run through our day and relationships without really thinking. We are reacting unconsciously and the way we have been acting the last however many years is the way we will react the next time that situation arises.  Being “In the flow” means connecting to our soul and KNOWING we are more than the programs that run in the background of our life.

Here are a few quick ways to find our way back to flow:

Meditate: Whether it be a cross legged OM-ing meditation, becoming conscious of your breathing or a quiet walk alone through nature… TURNING OFF THE NOISE and connecting to our soul is CRITICAL in getting back to flow.  Sometimes when we quiet the world around us we are aghast at some of the messages we are sending ourselves – some of which we don’t even truly BELIEVE.  When we connect inward we are made aware of things we have over-looked before.  Sit quietly for 10 minutes and if you have trouble quieting your mind try the following exercise:

Have you got “Monkey Mind?”  With any thought that comes up – imagine it being a cloud and drifting away.  As each drifts away the skies get clearer.  The sun is soon visible.  Breathe in.  Breathe out. Repeat. Sit in that stillness of the clouds being away and the sun shining (even if it is brief it is deeply healing).

After time alone connecting inward – I always feel more in flow and in touch with my true self rather than my ego-ic mind that tries to run the show!

Ask for Help: Call a friend that makes you smile.  Go out for a walk with a friend or just chat on the phone.  Being around positive people can change your outlook and make you look at things differently. I know when I feel out of flow I can get into these states where I can be giving a client advice I need to hear but not hear it for myself.  BUT if my husband or a good friend tells me – THEN I hear it.  Tell people you are feeling “out of sorts”.  Let someone you trust give you advice or lend a hand.  This was something I had problems with FOR YEARS but once I realize that I was denying people the thing I loved (helping others) it became easier to put myself in that space.  I ALWAYS come out feeling more in flow because of it.

Treat Yourself to a Healing: Some people feel “I don’t need a healing”.  Hmmmm I ALWAYS can use a healing.  (Yeah, my friends KNOW I am an energy junkie) Even when life feels good there is guaranteed to be SOMETHING in my life I am not seeing with utter clarity.  Healing is NOT only about the physical.  Most physical challenges begin in the emotional or spiritual before they manifest into physical illnesses and dis-ease.  Treating yourself to a healing modality and time to lie down to receive is healing in itself (before the session even BEGINS).  You are affirming you ARE worth that time and you DO want to feel good!  There are many different modalities of healing.  If you are a reader of my blog you know about my services which I am passionate about; Reconnective Healing, Soul ReAlignment TM (Akashic Reading and Clearing) and Mind/Body Mentoring. There are many other forms of healing as well.

I just heard of a VERY generous offer my friend Simon Hay is offering for 100 FREE Healings to Celebrate his 100th post on healing.  If you do not have the money to purchase one for yourself I highly recommend you take advantage of this offer. Simon is a VERY gifted and sought after healer – he is a brilliant person as well.  Simon also recently wrote a WONDERFUL guest post over Zeenat Merchant-Syal’s wonderful blog “Positive Provocations ” called “Self Healing – The Bravest Moment” that I HIGHLY recommend you read.

I always say with a healing to pick a healer and modality you resonate with.  Not everyone is an energy junkie like me saying, “Bring it on”. There are sooo many gifted healers – and so many beautiful forms of healing out there.  Each has the ability to make you feel much more connected and in flow.

SET GOALS: If you don’t ever set goals HOW do you know where you are going?  I am constantly setting and re-setting goals.  I believe in mini goals (baby steps) and letting go on the SPECIFIC outcome to get to the final goal.  If you do not have any goals or are not in touch with what they are you can feel like you are floundering and have no direction.  I set goals in all areas of my life; financial, relational, physical, emotional, etc.  What areas do you feel “stuck” or “out of flow” in your life?  How can you make it better?  Short term – as in what is the next STEP you can take?  Long term – what does the final outcome look like?  These steps might change course but if you write down even the next 2 steps – it is a start and can get you feeling back in flow.

GRATITUDE: I  spoke with a client recently who had forgotten she had anything to be grateful for. She has many “material things” others dream about.  She had gotten very caught up in this 3rd dimension, the messages she was sending herself and her automatic pilot. When reminded of her health, ability to travel, friends, etc. she paused and took a deep breath and FELT that gratitude.  When we find ourselves amongst challenges gratitude can seem the furthest thing from our mind. We are “stuck” in the complexity of the situation, the world around us and all seems “so hard”.  “Why me?”, “What did I do to deserve this?”, “How the heck am I going to deal with this?”, are some of the most frequent words I hear and I also used to say when I was ill.  Taking 5 minutes to tell yourself things that ARE GOOD in your life makes SUCH a huge difference and can cause an IMMEDIATE SHIFT!  Call it Law of Attraction or whatever else you want to call it but if you are sitting in negativity you are attracting more toward you.  If you are showing you are grateful for what you have you are attracting and calling to you more things to be grateful for.  Gratitude was my #1 healing tool that shifted me instantly into a better space.  If I find myself down or out of flow it is the number one tool I reach for.  We ALWAYS have things to be grateful for.. the fact that you could read this and have a computer and electricity is a start.  Food, air, friends, family… there is a never ending list.  What is yours?  Saying it to yourself or out loud a few minutes in the morning and a few minutes at night can shift your life around to a place in flow with the Universe VERY quickly.”

Jenny Mannion